Reality Conversation Planning Tool

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REALITY Conversation Planning Tool

REALITY Conversation Planning Tool

This tool allows you to plan and practice a coaching conversation by choosing the questions you want to ask for each step of the GROW process. The sections below contains a list of questions for the REALITY step of the GROW process. To select the question for the conversation, select "Yes"; to exclude the question click "No."

Reality Questions

The REALITY defines the employee’s current performance level for any skill, competency, or behavior. The REALITY also encompasses the impact of the performance gap on a function, department, team, customer, or project.


Focus of REALITY Questions:
• What’s happening and how is it affecting others?
• Who’s involved, where is the problem most evident?
• When does it occur, and how often is the REALITY taking place?
• What is the complexity and frequency of the problem, issue, or behavior?
• What are the likes and dislikes of various job responsibilities and duties?


To select the question for the conversation, select "Yes"; to exclude the question click "No."

REALITY 1 - What is happening now (what, where, when, who, how much, how often)? Be as precise as possible.
REALITY 2 - Tell me what’s going well on the project or in your department? Explain in detail the technical/ people/resource/equipment issues.
REALITY 3 - What have you tried so far? What were the result(s) of your previous attempts?
REALITY 4 - What feedback have you received? What experiences have you given others that has created this feedback?
REALITY 5 - What’s the perspective of customers, direct reports, other departments, your team, senior management or others?
REALITY 6 – When things are going badly on this issue, what happens to you? What does your intuition tell you is really going on?
REALITY 7 - How do you like, enjoy, or feel about this portion of your job?
REALITY 8 - Since our last session, what milestones have you achieved? Which ones have eluded you? Which are in the way?
REALITY 9 - Is this always a problem/challenge, or are there situations in which it isn’t?